Balance. Is it possible?

Greetings!

More often than not people ask how to find balance in all areas of their life;

Eating well, exercising, kids, work, family, social life, etc...

It's easy for most to focus on one area of life and do well, but finding balance in all areas can be tricky.

At its core, balance is as simple as this: if you find yourself focusing too hard on one area of your life, i.e.: exercise, take a step back, re-evaluate and see where you can spend some time focusing on another area instead.

This doesn't mean giving up exercising,

HELL NO!

It just means you reassemble your time wisely, so that you can do other things you love. Is your job not fulfilling your "daily purpose" requirements? Re-evaluate, and see where you can spend time enjoying a hobby that will feed your soul.

Look, life is all about staying true to your purpose (Law 2), and anything that drags you down will not help you feel balanced, or support you in living out that purpose. Consistency and variety will always be part of keeping things in balance, always.

For example, a good workout should be an intense experience for some, but there needs to also be an aspect of fun to it. A solid relationship should support you in feeling safe and secure, but you need to stay on your toes and still show up, or else things could fall apart. It's always important to be aware and conscious of what's happening in the world around you, and especially the world inside of you.

Are you making good decisions for yourself?

Are you engaging in activities that feel good?

Or are you working all the time and then chauffeuring the kids all around town without ever thinking twice about what you need?

Balance comes when you learn to take good care of yourself in all areas. This doesn't mean that you need to spend 3 hours every day exercising, meditating or cooking good food. What it does mean is that spending 5 minutes or 5 hours on something you love that feeds your soul will provide more balance in your life than putting all your eggs in one basket.

You feel me?

I’m a huge fan of the word YES, but also, practicing the word NO will benefit you in feeling more balanced in your life.

Know when to speak up for yourself and do what feels good for you. Don’t always do what others expect you to do, or make a decision because you don't want to let someone down, even though you may feel badly for it. You deserve to make the best, informed choice for yourself.

The goal of balance is this;

1. Take advantage of opportunities for growth

2. Know your abilities and your limits

3. Protect yourself from harm and don't get in your own way.

Now, go get on a slack line and see what balance really feels like.

Until next time.....
T-Hortonhead!

How To Extend Your Life

Greetings Horton-heads!

Guess what? I got married last weekend!!!

One more Hortonhead! That’s Mrs. Shawna Marie Hortonhead to you. It was a celebration like no other. All the people I love and cherish were in one place together. There was such an outpouring of love and affection, you could breathe it in.  

My dear friend, Scotty Fifer (yup, Fifer Scissors) wrote a hilarious speech at my request, and boy did he roast me good. I know it was all done out of love, and everyone got some good belly laughing in (a bonus Ab workout too.) One of the things Scott touched on was the importance of community, and how studies are now showing that having community actually extends your life.

On that note... how are you creating community in your life?

Do you have one?

Are you a loner?

Are your children the only community you have?

I'm not saying there is anything wrong with that, but having a real social life and close friendships with people outside of your family is critical for your happiness, and longevity.

With the advent of the Internet and social media, studies are showing that we are becoming less social, instead of more so.  We’re communicating through devices and not in person as much, because of convenience, and people’s fears of actual face-to-face conversations. Young folks, and many adults nowadays (do I sound old or what?) have their heads down looking at a smartphone instead of interacting with the people around them. We're building “on-line” communities, but losing hometown committees in the 21st century.    

Did you know human connection is almost as important as breathing, eating, and sleeping? Seriously! Humans need connection with other humans. It keeps us happy, healthy and alive. Think about a tiny baby. If that baby doesn't get love, touch and connection it can not thrive and grow in a healthy way.

You can receive this connection from being part of a community. I have met amazing people in my life, and have created lifelong friendships with so many different kinds of people - most of them were at my wedding. I feel inspired every day by my community. It feeds me, adds to my happiness, and nurtures my well-being. And the extra big bonus; it’s extending my life!

When I was a kid, I hung out with my friends, ran around the neighborhood, rode my bike, played hoop, played catch, threw the Frisbee for hours, and participated in community functions, and activities. I know we have responsibilities, and the daily grind can get the better of us, but life can go south real quick if we don't have rock solid friends and family around to keep things interesting.

So, shut off your computer or laptop, stop texting on your phone, and use it to call the people you want to start living large with. Build a face-to-face community, and cut back on your face-in-a-device community. It will add years to your life.

From Mr. & Mrs. Anthony Sawyer Horton

Failure = Success? You Betcha!

Greetings Horton-heads!

 

Failure - It’s just a word. A silly word that confuses the user. I think failure rocks! It means you’re doing something. There’s no reason to shy away from it, or try to avoid it. All “failures" are opportunities to improve. Failure means you’re doing something right, as long as you’re learning from it. 

In my opinion, failure needs a new name;

How about "AWESOME OR POWERFUL"

The word itself denotes absolute defeat or collapse; that’s not what happens when you don’t lose the weight, slip up and eat at McDonald's, or can’t do as many pull-ups as you were hoping for. Those moments are not failures, they're small motivational setbacks. Failure and success are Siamese twins, with one heart and brain. They don't exist without each other. If you're not failing a little, it means you are not stepping up, taking chances, putting yourself out there, and opening yourself up to the Big Picture.

Winston Churchill said, "Success consists of going from failure to failure without the loss of enthusiasm." Brilliant! One issue with the word failure is it can make us feel like a loser, or that we ARE a failure, versus the line of thinking that we merely had a setback at our attempt to do something, which is not a reason to give up! Setbacks are our opportunity to learn, better ourselves, move forward, or take action to do it a bit differently, but more importantly to keep trying. 

Many people would rather play it safe, not take chances, not explore, not stick their neck out, or put themselves in a situation where they could possibly fail/ learn/ grow/ LIVE! Take it from me; I was someone who played it safe for much of my life. And what did it get me? Next to nothing. I said “NO" to everything, which led to NO adventure. NO experience. NO learning. NO real successes in life.

When I took the chance with P90 eighteen years ago, I didn't know if it would succeed or fail, but I worked like hell, had a few setbacks, and did my best. I was lucky to have people who believed in me, and supported me. There were dozens of naysayers scoffing, “Another exercise program, especially an extreme one being sold through an infomercial? That will never work.” Things turned out pretty well in the end, and we’re still going strong. 

If you're afraid to fail, you will never open yourself up to opportunities for success. Failure is the key to joy, happiness, and personal growth. If you view failure as AWESOME, or POWERFUL instead, then you will be open to doing new things. You might make mistakes, screw up, or fall flat on your face, but at least you were in the middle of the action and not sitting on the sidelines.

Your ego might tell you not to get up again, but that's only because your ego wants you to think it has everything under control. That’s how it keeps its identity. But, you and I both know that we have the power to choose a different way of looking at awesome and powerful setbacks, and not let our self-image run the show. It's time to use the ego as an AWESOME and POWERFUL servant, instead of letting it be the master of your life.

So next time you feel afraid to fail, push forward and enjoy the whole ride. You might fall and get banged up a bit, but you can always get back up, wipe yourself off, and keep moving forward. That’s not failing, it’s living.

Until next time...T-Horton